Women walked behind their husbands, men 'owned' their wives and domestic abuse was high, women did not eat meals with their spouse, rather they remained in the cupboard, young adults in love could neither hold hands, nor kiss in public, girls covered their mouths when they laughed, a ma could treat her daughter in-law horribly, and other such rules.
The Confucian ideals seem old-fashioned and very conservative, " The wife must regard her husband as heavenly; what he does is a heavenly act and she wil only follow him. " I told the Chinese preferred a male child over a female, and given the social rules regarding men and women, the Koreans felt the same pat, more so in previous generations.
I aught a glimpse of old Hawaii and the merging of cultures as the Koreans, Chinese, Japanese, Filipinos, American military, and th hundred other nationalities descended on the islands before the irst World War. I ould picture many of the places in my young girls' mind, remembering the sugar cane fields my family used to drive through from Ewa ( Eh-va) to g to Waipahu for church.