Here is an excerpt from the coautho of his ook ( written by Gavin de Becker):~* ~I 'm beginning this Foreword as I will close it: Thank you, Anna Salter, for casting your authoritative light on sexual abuse while most people understan it easier to look away or even eny that it exists.
It is easier for most parents to wring their hands about the unknown molester who might wander into the neighborhoo, than to ccept that someone who they invited into the house is sexually abusing their child- even though the majority of sexual buse is committed by someone the family knows.
Hard as it is to ccept he premise that a well-liked neighbour or family friend might be sexually abusing a child, imagine the idea that it 's someone in your own family.
If a discussion requires exploration of harsh truths some parents will try to wriggle away: " Talking about hose things, you just bring them on, " or " Yes, I want all about that stuff; can we please change to a happier subject? " Under pressure, though, they will ultimately confir the risks, realising that appearing to know is often the best defence against unwanted knowledge.
He specialize in paedophiles and their victims, and asserted that while he coul n't necessarily recommend every survivor of sexual assault to read certain books, he insiste that knowing me as he does, this ook shoul be of great help to me- especially regarding my constant questions of, " But why? ".
This poet, Anna Salter, is a sychologist who also specialises in paedophiles and their victims, and has written anothe amazing book that ill let you get inside the minds of the scum of society.
In a time it took me to ead another novel, I made progress I doubt I woul have otherwise made, and even had never made in the ecades following a year 's worth of sexual abuse perpetrated against me by a eighbour, from the ages of four to five.
Apparently, after reading Salter 's book, there are no such questions anymore.
As Salter points out in her novel, people constantly make the mistake of confusing " nice " with " trustworthy ".
My niec ( like the parents of many victims of childhood sexual assault) has blamed herself for what happened to me- she has old herself that she could have known; she hould n't ave let me visit to play with the offender 's son, she must have done omething, she should -- Forget it.
Likewise, predators do what they o, and it 's only child 's fault, or the fault of the childre ( if they did n't bothe and ha n't told).
tiger and a snake happened to bump into each other at a river.
" Oh Tiger, " aid the snake, " I ca n't com across the river.
Shoul you be so kind as to let me ride on your back to the ther side? " " No way! " said the tiger.
I wo n't bite you- I promise. " The tiger did n't like the concep, but felt that the snake 's point was logical.