The Groom Will Keep His Name: And Other Vows I've Made About Race, Resistance, and Romance

A riotous collection of " witty and captivating " ( Bitch Magazine) essays by a gay Filipino immigrant in America learning that everything is about sex -- and sex is about power

When Matt Ortile moved from Manila to Las Vegas, the locals could n't pronounce his name. Harassed as a kid for his brown skin, accent, and sexism, he said he could belong in America by marrying a white man and shedding his Filipino identity. This ha the first myth he told himself. The Groom Will Keep His Name examine the various tales Ortile spun about what it means to hav a Vassar Girl, an American Boy, and a Filipino immigrant in New York looking to build a home.

As we meet and mate, we tell stories about ourselves, revealing not just who we are, but who we want to be. Ortile recounts the relationships and whateverships that pushed him to confront his notions of sex, power, and the model minority myth. Whether swiping on Grindr, analyzing DMs, or cruising steam rooms, Ortile brings us on his journey toward radical self-love with intelligence, wit, and his heart on his sleeve.
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Expected publication: June 2nd 2020 by Bold Type Books

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Ortile has a voice worth paying attention to.

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But I ha ot expecting to be blown away by well-researched historical analysis The Groom Will Keep His Name offers in each essay.

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Wis you to Perseus Books and NetGalley for this ARC! Through his collection of essays revolving around race, immigration, his parent ’ s divorce, family and queerness in the United States, Matt Ortile manages to tell stories that anyone who picks up “ The Groom Will Keep His Name: And Other Vows I ’ ve Made About Race, Resistance, and Romance ” will find something to contribut to or learn about.

Ortile ’ s debut memoi is composed of a series of book that explore multiple points throughout his teenage and adult life, as he reflects on immigrating to the United States from the Philippines and his work to try to fit in with the mostl white country and more specifically, his new home of Las Vegas.

Although I can ’ t relate to him on some of the things he talked about, such as immigrating and being a minority in the United States, it was an eye opening experience reading this book that I wan more educated and understand more than I did before.Another aspect about th ook that was portrayed well was Ortile ’ s millennial experiences, something that often gets looked over or written off as young adults complaining about their “ easy ” lives.

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Matt Ortile 's essays run the gamut from immigrating to the US from the Philippines, growing up in Las Vegas, attending Vassar, his early career in New York, and dating.

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I like every second of it.Through its pages, Ortile 's work unpacks what it means to be part of intersecting—and sometimes conflicting—identities and communities and the struggle to find oneself in the aftermat of them.

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